18 January 2011

A Sad Day

It's a sad day here in the Mootz household.  We are giving Brinlea to the Humane Society today.  We're are upset about it, but unfortunately, it is necessary.

Over the weeks she has become increasingly destructive and aggressive.  Lil Mootz is scared of her because of the number of times she's pushed him down.  She also "play" bites, but over the weeks those bites have gotten harder and harder.  We were concerned, but thought it was her puppyness coming out.  There were so many moments when she was loving and sweet and they seemed to more frequent.  We had an appointment yesterday to get her spayed and we hoped that would help calm her down a bit.

About an hour or so after dropping her off at the vet yesterday for her appointment, Stonewall got a call from the vet saying they wouldn't be able to spay her because she was so aggressive.  Apparently, when they were trying to get blood from her she repeatedly lunged at the vet and his assistant, growled and snapped at them.  They worked with her for about 40 minutes to try and calm her down and get her to relax, but she wouldn't let up.  They eventually called it quits.

We've been going to this vet for...oh gosh, I don't even know how many years.  I trust their judgment 150%.  When Pippy licked up antifreeze, they took her in immediately and got her squared away.  When Sarge was give about a 5% chance of living, they worked to figure out what was wrong with him and kept him for about two weeks to get him back up and running.  My parents have been taking their dogs their for as long as I can remember.  They've seen us through new puppies, random dog illnesses, old dogs, and even untimely puppy deaths.  The thought of taking my dogs anywhere else greatly upsets me.

Once they decided they wouldn't be able to spay Brinlea, the vet called Stonewall.  Stonewall spoke with them for quite a while, telling them about the problems we've been having with her over the past several week.  Several years ago the vet had the same breed in for spaying exhibiting the same aggressiveness as Brinlea.  The family decided to keep the dog.  Unfortunately, that dog turned on the family's daughter and caused serious injury.  The vet felt, based on her behavior in the vet's office and her behavior at home, that it wasn't a matter of if Brinlea goes off on one of us, but when.

I refuse to take that chance with Lil Mootz or Pippy.

We spent the afternoon yesterday calling rescues in PA, NY, and MD, trying to find one that would take Brinlea.

Here's where my rant begins...

If you are a rescue and you get your grant money and donations by posting on your site that you rehabilitate dogs INCLUDING aggressive dogs, then f**cking mean it!!  I can't tell you how disappointed I am in animal rescues right now.  I called so many rescues that claim they will not turn any dog away for any reason, including aggressiveness, only to be told, "Nope, we won't take her."

"But your site says you rehabilitate aggressive dogs.  And yet you won't take my dog."

"That's correct."

"So you're lying on your site then?"

"No..."

"But I have a dog showing signs of aggression.  You site says you rehabilitate aggressive dogs, but you won't take her. That sounds like lying to me."

"It's not lying."

"But you won't take her."

"No."

"Then you're lying."

"No, we're -" and then I hung up on them.

Our only option besides a rescue is euthanasia.  We're not satisfied with that option.

Rescues have this "No kill" stance, yet they refuse to help anyone that may have to go that route.  They're more than happy to say, "You're morally inferior to us because you'll put you're dog down."  Yet when asked, "Will you take her?" They say, "No."

Let me tell you something rescues... That does NOT make you better than me, better than pet shops, better than any dog owner that didn't "rescue" their dog.  No.  It's makes you liars.  Liars to all the people that donate to you because they think you help ALL dogs.  It makes you shameless.  Shameless because you have no problem turning down a puppy, that in the right environment and with the right help, could be a great dog, but then have the nerve to ask me, "Have you considered putting this dog down?" while flashing "No Kill" your website.

I'm angry at all of those rescues that I called and said that to me.

Okay... Calming down...

Stonewall eventually called the University of PA because they have a behavioral program for dogs.  After taking a test that all of their candidates take and talking to the director of the program, we learned that Brinlea is NOT aggressive.  She has fear anxiety.  In some ways that is better than being aggressive and in other ways that is worse.

It is better because she is not as dangerous as an aggressive dog.  Over time, a trainer/owner would be able to figure out her fears and there by control her anxiety.  It is worse because her major fear, separation, is one of the hardest fears to control in a dog.  It is very possible that even after years of working with a trainer, she will never lose that fear and will continue to be destructive.  And of course, in a dog you can't simply ask them, "What scares you?"  It is a trial by error process and we might think we have everything under control and then suddenly a new factor comes into play that brings out her fear.

*sigh*

It's a hard situation.

Well, after calling several rescues and being turned down we were starting to think we might have to go a route we didn't want to go.

Then we hit the jackpot.

Stonewall called a humane league in our area...a second time, actually.  The first time they said they wouldn't take her because we didn't live in their county.  He called them a second time to discuss the icky choice with them and also to talk to them about the test results from the behavioral dog school.  It turns out, they use the same test to determine if a dog is a dog they can adopt out.  After talking to Stonewall, they said that for a small donation they would take Brinlea and work with her and determine if she could be placed with another family.  If she couldn't be adopted out, they would decide the next move, but regardless, it was out of our hands at that point.

I sincerely hope she can placed with another family.  I have no doubt that in the right environment she could be a fabulous dog.  All she needs is time and proper training.  I feel strongly that the Humane League feels the same way, especially since they agreed to evaluate her after hearing the results of the test. 

I wish we could give her those things.  Like I said before though, I'm not willing to take a chance with Lil Mootz and Pippy.  My human child is far more important that any dog I could ever own.  If something happened to him that we could have prevented right now, I would never forgive myself.

So there you have it...

I realize that some people might judge us based on what they read in this post, especially since the subject of euthanasia came up.  To those people I say...

Then you take her.  Take my dog and prove that she can be trained to be an excellent dog.  Until you do that you have no right to judge us or our decisions from your moral high horse.

14 comments:

pinkcombatboots said...

I just wanted to say, thanks for making the right choice. I worked for a veterinary clinic for four years and saw quite a number of families who had dogs that were dangerous for their children, to the point where the child had been bitten (several times I believe in one case) and still they wouldn't let the dog go. I love animals, especially dogs, but sometimes the dogs need a new home. Brinlea sounds like she could find a wonderful home with a no-children household where someone is home a lot. Those places do exist. I've heard success stories, so wishing her the best.

On a side note, it isn't really fair to the dog herself to keep her in a home where she is stressed to the point of being destructive and aggressive. By giving her the opportunity to find a home where she can relax more, you're doing what's best for her too.

It's a Dog Tag Wife Life said...

I think what you did is the right thing. Also, we have a dog that also has fear aggression. It is hard and it can come up unexpectedly. Luckily, (or not so luckily) right after we got ours, I got laid off for about 6 months. Those were 6 months of very intense training. And wow, what a difference it made. Now at home, he rarely acts out, except when a stranger comes into the house, but he's learned that if we like them, he has to also.

At the vet is another story, he's especially afraid of big men so he always barks and goes nuts at them. Thank goodness for our Gentle Leader, it's really brought the "outbursts" down.

It's a tough thing to deal with and especially when you have a little one, you have to be more aware.

I really hope they can work with her and she can go to a family that has the time it takes to do the training, because it really does take a lot.

Best of luck with the next pooch though, they really are wonderful when you find one that fits your family perfectly.

Jeannette said...

What a hard situation to be in. You did the right thing. It is sad that some dogs just aren't right for a home, but it's true.

Wife of a Sailor said...

I am one of the first people who think many people give up too easily.

HOWEVER... if she did this at your vet and THEY said something was going to happen, then that is definitely the time to take action and I'd have done the exact same thing as you. Kudos to you for going to such lengths to find her a place that will give her a chance at rehab.

You are awesome. And ignore anyone who tells you otherwise.

Kate said...

I know this decision was a difficult one, but you ABSOLUTELY did the right thing. Your family comes first. Obviously you want to do what's best for Brinlea, but you have to look out for your child first. I hope Brinlea is able to find a safe, healthy home where she'll thrive, but I'm so relieved that your little guy will also not feel scared in his own home!

Unknown said...

I'm so sorry you had to give her up, but you are totally doing the right thing, both for you and the dog.
I wish more pet owners were as responsible as you are, taking the effort to get her spayed, and then when that didn't work out, spending the time to find a rescue that would accept her.
In the end, I bet with careful training and a safe environment, they will be able to rehabilitate her. And they have the discretion to not allow her to be adopted by family with children, therein eliminating some risk.
Kudos to you for responsibly dealing with such a difficult decision.

Bridget McCarthy said...

Stumbled across your blog and let me say I commend you for taking such measures in trying to make the right decision for your family. We had to give up our dog (a pit bull non-affectionately nicknamed Satan after one too many mishaps shortly after the arrival of our son). We faced a lot of criticism to which I always responded politely, "Thank you so much for offering to take her!" That quieted them down quickly.

Tiffany said...

I'm so sorry that the situation didn't work out for you, but at least your children will be safe. You definitely made the right decision & I hope your week gets better from here on out.

Gina said...

I want to applaud you for doing your best to find the best solution for the DOG. Living in California we have "humane societies" that are similar to those who lied to you.

SGRMSE. said...

you did the right thing. i know that it was hard but it was something you had to do. i do commend you for not turning away from the best interest(s) of your pet. forget haters, their opinions are irrelevant.

good on you ♥

mama2blog said...

I am so sorry that Brinlea didn't work out in your household. I think you did an awesome job by trying to find care for her frstly before you did anything. A lot of people don't do that and it sounds like you tried your best to find a place that would take her. So sorry you ran into that crazy stuff with the rescues - how discouraging to know that. Definately - if the vet wouldn't do the spaying...I wouldn't have her in my home with small children and other pets...to much of a risk to take.

Michelle said...

I commend you and Stonewall for taking such exhaustive measures to figure what to do with Brinlea. It's a hard decision made even harder with the emotions involved.

On a side note, let me know if you want two destructive Chihuahuas. I just walked into the kitchen to discover my two little terrors growling at each other playing tug of war...with a lacey pair of underwear that I'm guessing is not OccDoc's. I love 'em, but serously?

Crazy Shenanigans-JMO said...

I'm sure this was a hard choice! I think it's really great of you guys to have called around so much to find a place. Most people would not do that!

Tiffany said...

Oh man, it shows you have such a soft heart for going through all of that to find a good alternative for your pet. We are not pet people (all 3 of us are allergic) but I know they make families for many.

Stopping by from SITS

Follow my blog with Bloglovin   This whole claim your blog on Bloglovin is driving me fucking bonkers. Any advice would be sincerely app...