Monday again! And it's time for:
This week's prompt: Balancing Blogging & Being a Mom.
Let me just say for the record, on behalf of Stonewall, that he would claim that I have a problem balancing blogging and being a wife.
*sigh*
It's a never ending battle between him and me...and it's not going to end here, so we'll just move on to the prompt.
I really struggled with blogging and being a mom when Lil Mootz was first born. I was home on maternity leave, Stonewall was deployed, and Lil Mootz didn't do much, but eat, sleep, poop, and cry. Needless to say, our conversations were pretty one-sided. I know you're supposed to talk to your baby and play with your baby, but you spend 24/7 entertaining a one month old. It gets old and boring FAST. Especially when you're not sharing that responsibility with anyone.
Indulge me for a moment. Place a Cabbage Patch doll, belly down on a pillow (gotta get that tummy time in!). Now play with that baby doll for 20 minutes while it continues with it's tummy time. That's about what it's like when they are that young.
I relied on my bloggy friends to get me through all my alone time. Lil Mootz was content to swing in his swing and I went on with my bloggy life.
My problem was it continued as Lil Mootz got older. He started moving around more. Smiling more. Playing with more toys. There's still only so much a two month old can do, so I would always go back to blogging.
Then one day it happened.
I'm typing on my blog or commenting...I really don't remember. And Lil Mootz is playing on his baby jungle gym.
Anyway…
I’m typing away, not paying attention to Lil Mootz because he’s still pretty immobile at this time. Well, he was….
I look up and all I see is my little baby with his arms wrapped around the red pole and his little feet dangling off the edge of the table and kicking in the air.
Not one of my finest moments.
From that moment on I made it a point to never blog (or even get on the computer unless absolutely necessary) while Lil Mootz was awake. I would save it until he was sleeping. To this day I stick by that rule. I blog at night after he’s gone to bed. I’ll check my email or bank account during his waking hours…sometimes I pay the bills, but for the most part I like to focus on Lil Mootz when he’s awake.
No offense to all of you out in blog land. I love you all, but Lil Mootz is more important. I want to remember this time in his life by actually being a part of it. I’d much rather play with him than blog. Which leads me to comment-guilt. I don’t get to other blogs as much as I’d like now, but (and once again, no offense) Lil Mootz laughing at something silly I’m doing is so much more appealing than other blogs.
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I mean, seriously? Would you rather pay attention to that face or my blog all day?
13 comments:
I agree 100%! And that's exactly why I dont get over here to comment all the time anymore either :) Not to mention why I abandon my own blog sometimes for weeks and weeks at a time. Because I have a life, with real living and breathing children and a husband who'd like to see more than the back of my head all day, lol.
Sometimes, I admit, I do wonder how people are able to have a family the size of mine and also manage to blog 4 or 5 times a week (or more) and update their Twitter accounts every 5 minutes all day long. Without someone else doing your childcare I just can't figure out how you'd get it all done. You cant possibly keep all those balls in the air at once. Eventually something has to give. I just dont ever want that something to be my marriage, or my children, or even the upkeep of my home...Sorry, but blogland isn't worth it!
Mines still in that "newborn" stage but I can see myself having this problem. I have been doing a lot of updating to my blog and I was thinking yesterday... one day soon I'll have it just the way I want it... then what? It was an odd thought.
Yes talking with a one month old does get old quickly when they can't exactly respond back. I have a 2 month old so I can relate to that. I'm visiting along with the Meme saga from The Blessings of Modern Domestication. So sad this is on hold for a while.
I can see where the 24 hours a day baby time would leave you a little crazed --- glad to hear you've got your balance!
Thanks for stopping by Life: Forward - I really enjoyed hearing your thoughts!
Oh, he is just the cutest. Love the pics!
Ok, on the Mama Guilt, good for you for realizing what you needed to do and doing it! I think we all need to define our priorities once and a while!
Thanks for linking up and sharing YOUR story!
It sounds like you have found a good way to balance it all. Stopping from SITS!
hilarious, so glad he was ok! great idea to blog when he's sleeping. it's hard to balance real life and still comment on other blogs. i find it a struggle too :D
I totally agree with your post!
On another note, I'm about to have our second child and my husband is also deployed. I'd be curious to pick your brain on welcoming a baby while your hubby is away...if you're up for it! :)
Nate says I have a problem with an internet addiction, lol.
I also agree 100 percent! Thank you so much for visting my bog. Have a wodnerful day and your son is so adorable
Well said! You just can't get those moments back. There is no good justification for blogging more than you mother your children. Sometimes you just need to turn off the computer and walk away!!
It is hard to balance the two. I find I'm either online a lot or not at all. As the kids get older, I find that I'll slip away for a few minutes while they are playing. But I still have to limit my time. I love your blog! Thanks for stopping by mine!
Popping over from SITS. I saw your post about the Bully Police and I would like to participate in your Anti-Bully blog party. I have an 11 year old son who has been the victim of severe bullying problems at his school and I've been checking out some of the resources over at Bully Police. It's definitely a tough problem and we start Jr. High next year, so I am worried it is going to get worse next year. It is heartbreaking.
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